How do you get to know people?
By asking questions right?
Especially as we live in a world where our relationships are now 'over the waves'. We hardly do much in person. Twitter and BBM have taken over our lives.
Anyways, I digress.
Here's a scenario - people meet, get introduced, exchange pins (as is mostly the case) and kick off! They talk, perhaps ask questions within that process and 'get to know each other'.
Now here's where my problem is, recently I've been accused of 'not asking any questions'. Its happened on more than one occasion hence the reason why its become a bit of a concern. I've been told that I answer questions and don't ask any, which indirectly means I probably don't care. On my part, I'd say that's a bit harsh cos although it might ring true, its never really the case. It got me thinking though, so how do I get to 'know people'. I find that I can't really do the initial interrogation. Probably because it isn't effective for me. So when the questions end, how well do your conversational skills fare from that point? I think I'd rather study people and insert important information where appropriate. Many actually miss the fact one can say a lot or nothing in a conversation, depends on how receptive the person is to 'new entrants' in their lives. That is not to say they aren't 'interested'. So it feels rather weird when I get told "I've been asking all the questions since, I think its your turn now".
How do I deal with that? "Oh ok, so how many siblings do you have? Where do you live? What's your position in the family?" (I actually find that very archaic) but hey, whatever rocks your boat mate!
For me getting to know people involves learning how they think. Its a subconscious thing, I don't need to ask questions. Actually, I'm better off being asked questions cos I can't do the 'About You' speech.
Might seem like brain fart to some but in my mind, I've made a lot of sense. No?
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Correct Sexing
The other day I said I had a headache and my aunt said 'you need a man in your life toh ma ki e mole ti gbo gbo arun yi ma kuro ni ara e'.
Translation: you need a man in your life so he will 'do you right' and all these illnesses will leave your body.
Direct meaning of "Ki e mole' is give you correct sexing!
My question is how does 'correct sexing' relate with having a headache?
She says I complain a little too much about having a backache, stomach ache or something and that if a man roughened me up a lil, I'd either be immune to all these petty complaints or I'd have a bigger threshold for pain.
I hear you 'ahhing'. Imagine how I felt when I stood there and received the most shocking retort ever.
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Hope y'all are having a good week so far?
Thinking of hoping on this 30day challenge!
Let's go!
Have a Cameron and Strike filled week!
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Translation: you need a man in your life so he will 'do you right' and all these illnesses will leave your body.
Direct meaning of "Ki e mole' is give you correct sexing!
My question is how does 'correct sexing' relate with having a headache?
She says I complain a little too much about having a backache, stomach ache or something and that if a man roughened me up a lil, I'd either be immune to all these petty complaints or I'd have a bigger threshold for pain.
I hear you 'ahhing'. Imagine how I felt when I stood there and received the most shocking retort ever.
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Hope y'all are having a good week so far?
Thinking of hoping on this 30day challenge!
Let's go!
Have a Cameron and Strike filled week!
Sent from my BlackBerry® Smartphone, from Etisalat.
Formula Two
Maybe not.
Not having a car in Nigeria is close to being suicidal. Having one adds to our traffic issues. But what can man do?
Well for me, who never started a car, let alone drove one, I had to learn. I learnt with Uncle Ben and his Beetle cos my cousin wouldn't let me touch his car. So in the 14day learning period that spun over 3 months, I grew muscles in quite a few places. At that, I know that even if its going for 50p I will not buy a manual car. If I end up with one, I'd be driven around. Call me spoilt. That, I can live with.
Now I THINK I can drive. Think being the operative word! When they say "if you know how to drive in Lagos, you can drive anywhere", that's a big bag of crap. If you drive like this anywhere else, you will either fail your test or get arrested with a big fat ticket!! Don't dull!
One thing driving in Lagos helps you with though is offensive driving. When you're in a car chase, you'll fair well cos Lagos driving keeps you thinking the next car is out for you!
Plus you need extra skills to drive in flood and still avoid potholes! Talk about major brain work.
If you think you can out run the danfo guy who's high on grass and the aboki on okada who barely speaks English, I suggest you take the back seat. Literally! And watch the sights and wonders in Lagos.
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Just Checking
Many things are working against me now.
The fact that Blackberry still doesnt have an app for blogger. Either by RIM or a 3rd party, you'd think one of them would have thought to create one.
The epileptic and demented internet in Nigeria. If your life line depended on internet service either mobile or broadband, you'd be dead and decayed before you get help!
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Ooops its home time and my free ride is calling.
Man cannot sleep in Lagos trffic
