Stepping Out

I know this isn't anything new but I just thought I'd ask again. What is the point of cheating? This is from both parties I mean. As in most stories I've heard have been that the guy is the one stepping out, but really we know women do it too. But these days its ridiculous. Why be in a relationship when you are not 'in' it? I've heard NEWLY weds seeing others, talk less of those who have been married for more. A man that is about to be married, in less than a week or weeks is doing it, with no hopes of quitting once he gets hitched (even if getting married draws the line).

The other part is when the girl knows! As in, its bad enough that you know, its at the back of your mind, but then when things happen in your presence eg he receives a phone call from the wife, or he takes you along to do shopping for HER....doesn't that loosen up the tight knots in the head and make them feel bad? ARE THEY THAT STUPID?

Its really baffling. One thing I know I'd emphasize in my own relationship is, if you know feelings are starting to change, the best thing to do is TELL ME. Where I can fix it, I'll try and where not, then maybe we should go our separate ways. Why will I be in a relationship where the other party is not happy? Even if I am happy, knowing that he is not makes me unhappy as well. So why go through all that heartache? Why put myself through all that? I know its easier said than done, but I'm being practical and realistic. Or am I just being Naive?

I mean the stories I'm hearing these days are ridiculously stupid. Where friends are finding out that their friends are seeing their Aunt's husband or their cousin's husband or the likes...Why is that? What is there? Is it the thrill? The hide and seek? Or its still this materialism that is digging deep into our lives? Which one is it?