Moving Swiftly on...

Hey Guys!!!

Its good to be back home. Well, sort of. Lazying about camp sort of has side effects that coming back to a 8-5 doesnt agree with. But still, its good to be back home. The final week in camp was fun actually. I went with a plan and I executed it well. I cant say much about it seeing I'm not so anonymous anymore but it revolved around making someone miserable and I think I did a good job at it.
One thing I noticed about the final week was the haste in which everyone got hooked up or wanted to. I, being the back bencher and a very good audience to these scenes had a lot of fun watching. Trust me, its hilarious seeing guys and girls getting all cuddly and mushy, having known each other for a few days. Worse is when you hear stories of the ones who got down to the nitty gritty either behind the camp directors office or anywhere a chair could be placed. Meanwhile, many left boyfriends, girlfriends, fiances and even husbands and wives at home. Pure hilarity, I tell you. But why am I telling you this anyway? I'm sure you've all heard a similar story or the other about the popular 3 week getaway.

In the last post I mentioned that I wanted to ask you guys about 'moving on'. I'm sure everyone has one theory or the other about moving on from a past relationship or an 'almost relationship'. But regardless of the differences in humans and how we handle our emotions, shouldnt there be some set guides that apply to us all?
Taking a 4 year old relationship for example, both guy and girl got hurt and the break up is not as a result of a fight or one causing grief to the other. Say, forces outside of the relationship caused the break up, e.g religion or family matters, Health issues or what have you. When is it okay for them to move on? And even after moving other, when is it okay to 'brandish' your new significant other to the world and most importantly to the person you just broke up with.

Take another example. Guy and girl just met, talked a lot, like each other so much but hit a road block and for one reason or the other, they cant progress into a relationshp. Although, if not for the road block which neither of them could handle, she would be a candidate for marriage. Days later, the girl starts to hear of another girl and in about a week, he's all over the place with her. Status messages, profile pictures, etc all indicating that he's found new love. Now my question is how does that happen? Especially when he says that none of it started whilst you two had your thng. So what, he had a few days to recover and find new love?

I understand a break up where, one has hurt the other so bad that s/he would do anything to forget the past or get back at him/her but not one where you'd wish to be with that person but just cant.

I dont want to say what my opinions are so I dont create any biases, so I'd like to hear what yours are.

I hope you guys are having a more productive week than I am! My next post will be another question on things I've noticed since being back home.
Toodles!

15 Cogitations:

Miss FlyHigh said...

ha!

There is no closure ....if that sort of thing happens. The door is still open. There's always a reason why people break up. Maybe one of them is just not saying why. I think.

People are different. feelings change quick for some and longer for others. For the guy to have done that well....it doesn't mean he didn't 'like' or 'love' the other girl. He just came another that he likes too. Women do the same too.

I was talking about this to a friend the other day. How do people do stuff like that? Just move on so quickly after the deep attachment etc
We concluded that maybe we are the odd ones because as far as we can see people these days 'move' on quick as they say #ontothenextone.

Oh well. It's life I guess.

What happened at camp ooooooooooooooooooo

Fabulo-la said...

I dont think there is a time limit on on 'moving on'. Everyone is different and you have to consider each situation differently.
Sometimes for people that move on a week later, maybe its just a cover up, rmba pple handle situations differently. At the same time maybe it wasnt real to begin with.

As for camp people no comment.
But Naijababe the process of the 'hooking up' was sth of a spectacle! 3weks!
LMAO! #okbye!

Sugabelly said...

I hate when people always try to make people move on as quickly as possible. You had a relationship. Surely that meant something. I don't believe in diving into another relationship as soon as you're done with one. There has to be closure and some refractory time before you can move on to someone else.


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BSNC said...

Happy new year babe. Just stopping by to say hi. hope you are good.

rethots said...

A piece of rock and ice were placed side by side, trickles of water was continusly poured on both.

A little while later, a hole is bored in the ice and the rock is simply wet.

The rock is "...a road block and for one reason or the other, they cant progress into a relationshp." and or "...forces outside of the relationship..."

The ice is "...break up is as a result of a fight or one (casued) grief to the other."

Where there is no way, waiting 'long' does not (in)validate anything.

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