Undefined...

Its a case of boy meets girl and they kick it off.


2 months down the line, they arent official yet, but everything makes it look as though they are. She's met his family apart from his mother and some older, married siblings. She'd met his friends, his cousins been to family gatherings and has been introduced to as many people as the time can manage. The point is, it was never under the rocks. They were out and open with it. In that time, it was all rosy and sweet. They had talked about the exes and how things ended. He broke up with his recent ex (who he was meant to have wedded the month he met her). In their minds, they had been transparent with each other. No fights, no quarrels and the likes. Although it all looked too good to be true, it was all bliss and it seemed like she had reached her last bus stop on the 'search' journey.

Suddenly, it all starts to go awol. The calls reduce, the BB chats start to go vague and the visits practically disappear. My girl asks whats happening? His reason. I'm dealing with some things that I cant talk about. Ok, fine. My girl assumes its just for the moment. The moment turns into 2 months and they have practically become strangers to each other. No fight, nothing and its still under the premise that he is dealing with stuff he can't talk about. He starts to send irregular hellos and how are yous and when he is in town, he never offers to stop by. She is running between patience and anger. Some are saying "leave him, he'll come around and start begging". Others are saying "I think you have the right to tell him to piss off, you're not a carity case".

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What should she do?

14 Cogitations:

Anonymous said...

She needs to make a decision. She has 2 choices-- 1). Wait patiently for however long it takes baring in mind that he May never come back.
2). Have one last conversation about what is going on. If she means anything to him he has to give her some assurance that they are/will be okay [altho i dont get what could be going on with him that he can't at least share some of it...what does that say of their relationship?]. IF at the end of that conversation she gets nothing. She walks away and does NOT look back....cut her loses.

Yes, its easier said than done but at the end of the day she is responsible for her own life and happiness.

mizchif said...

Quietly get to stepping.
Fin.

disgodkidd said...

at the moment, i may be the boy in this story, plus and minus a few facts...

sometimes we guys are not just trying to be jerks, we are equally as confused and trying to sort out our feelings.

sometimes its not really black and white. we may simply be trying to make the best of two bad options - staying or leaving...

tobenna said...

What should she do?
She should move along swiftly.
Easier said than done, of course.
But, they were never an item..
Nothing was established.
That she met family et al means nothing to some guys.
I never introduced any of my girls to my parents. Except the one I married.

rethots said...

"What should she do?" She needs not worry about what to do, afterall"...they arent (were never) official yet,..."

OK said...

the girl should forget him...cos if she keeps staying , waiting n calling...i think it boosts his ego..so fashie him!

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